Relationships: When One Of You Works A 9-5 & The Other Is A GirlBoss

I’ll just say it… I’m not and never have been a “traditional job” kind of person.  I’ve tried it.  It’s just not me.

That said, there was a time in my life when weekends and weekdays just blended together.  Especially when I was at the peak of my stand-up comedy career.  Those were the years when weekdays were actually slow and weekends were hectic.

Now that I’m in a relationship with (and marrying) someone with a job that has more traditional hours, I have been trying to make the effort to make my hours more traditional as well.  That’s one of the benefits to blogging full time is that I work from home and I’m my own boss, so I set my hours.  That is a good thing if you’re disciplined.  It can be a bad thing when you’re not.

I never thought of myself as someone who was a workaholic… and I’ve wasted way too many hours watching bad tv to have anyone argue with me.  However, since I started blogging I’ve noticed a very direct relationship to the amount of work I put in with the progress I make.

That’s not to say I don’t wish my blog grew faster, and it’s not to say that the work/progress analogy couldn’t be made about any job really.  But I feel like with blogging I can actually SEE the difference (thank you Google Analytics).  I have to say, seeing that connection does a great job of motivating me.. but sometimes TOO much.  I’ve been finding it really difficult lately to take a break and relax. I always feel there is SOMETHING I could be doing to my blog, my youtube channel, or one of my social media outlets.

I’m very lucky to be in a relationship with someone who knows how to unwind.  It forces me to stop and shift my focus to something else.

To the bloggers, business owners, and other Girl Bosses out there, do you have the same problem?  How do you balance down time and learn how to take breaks without being constantly distracted by work.. I could use some tips!

See what Paul and I get up to on our weekends in my latest vlog….


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  • Biana Perez

    Both my husband and I work full-time and we both have other hobbies/businesses that keep us busy, so it’s nice that we can work on those things together at night, but we make it a point to eat dinner at the table no distractions together every night…to feel like we are connected lol! xo, Biana –BlovedBoston

    • That seems to be a popular way to stay connected 🙂

  • Darcy from A Memory of Us

    I definitely agree.. with blogging you see the results based of fhow much you are working towards it. It’s hard to stop some nights, but my hubby and I try to follow the rule that we both put our electronics away at 9 PM and spend the next hour and half together!
    http://www.amemoryofus.com

  • Shauna C

    We try to have a “no phone zone” when we are out to dinner so that we stay connected and aren’t always distracted by the phone 🙂 Seems to work OK for us, but yes it’s hard!

    Shauna

    http://www.lipglossandlace.net

  • Melissa Avey

    It’s hard too with home distractions. So important to make the time.

  • Olivia Muller

    Wow I never even thought about this. I am graduating college and going to work for a “traditional job” but I’ve always thought about someday venturing outside of that corporate culture and being a girl boss! It is definitely interesting to see how that plays in relationships as well!

    -Olivia

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  • Anne @ The Fitly Spoken Word

    I have a different problem – I work 8:30-3 every day teaching preschool, so I have to fit blogging around my FT job, my homemaking responsibilities, my kids, and my hubby. I truly blog in stolen moments whenever I can!

  • Working for yourself can defiantly be amazing and also a negative. I find myself never to stop working anymore. I am always editing, filming, shooting, writing, checkin social medias, commenting…. the list goes on, but I do love it and am trying to find a balance. Happy to know I am not along!
    xoxo
    Serein
    http://sereinwu.com

    • You are definitely not alone!! Finding balance is always a challenge!

  • It definitely can be hard to unwind sometimes – especially with such tightly knit work life integration. Sounds like you know what to do though! #girlboss

  • I think taking breaks is quite hard indeed. Even if I feel that what I am busy with might not be even that productive. I did set some alarms on my phone in the hope that I will at least take some breaks for my back and such. Also, I think it helps when someone keeps you accountable. Like; I said I would stop working after 5. It helps me when someone reminds me of that sometimes.

    I am very interested in the solutions others would give!
    This is a great posts and insight.

    ~ Sofie

    • Thanks so much! I never thought I would become someone who had to try to take breaks, but sometimes you just never know where life will take you 🙂