Take a good look at yourself. Now forget what the magazines tell you about what you should or shouldn’t love about yourself. Be honest with yourself. Make a list (mentally or physically) of what you love about your looks and what you dislike. Let’s start with the less fun part…
What do you not like about your appearance? Many women would probably say “everything”, and if you say “nothing” then you are either the most confident woman in the world, or you may be lying to yourself. I don’t want you to focus on what you don’t like about your looks, I just want you to acknowledge it. Accept that you are not perfect. But realize that no one is. This is not about tearing yourself down, it’s about accepting that you don’t have to love everything about yourself, because no one does.
Don’t call them your problem areas…. because they are not a problem, they are what you perceive as a problem. Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, and people who behold the butt you hate so much may think it’s beautiful (Kim Kardashian made her whole family famous with hers).
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Now let’s look at what you love about your looks. For some women this may take a while. Society wants us to be insecure about our looks, but we need to highlight what we love about ourselves. Even the most glamorous starlets has insecurities, but you’d never know because they showed off what they (and the world) loved about themselves. Forget what the magazines/ blogs/etc say about what you should look like. If you have a body part that you love, show it off. Say you love your long graceful neck. Wear your hair short or in an updo, and wear dramatic necklines. And who cares if the models on the runway have small hips and you are being told by fashion magazines that you should wear black pants to hide your full hips. If you love your full hips and want to show them off in a bright colored pencil skirt or pattered pants, go for it! Marilyn Monroe did…
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Here are some basic wardrobe tips for playing up your shape…
1. Light and bright makes things look bigger (same with bold patterns), and calls attention to the area where you wear them. So when putting together an outfit, put light colors and/or bright colors on the areas you love or want to make bigger.
2. Dark colors make things look smaller and call less attention to them. So save black and dark colors for your less favorite areas, or ones that you want to make smaller. And if you’re having a “fat” day (and we all have those once in a while), that’s what a LBD is for.
3. Sparkle calls attention to itself so use it strategically. If you love your eyes, wear sparkly earrings. Proud of your tiny waist? Wear a sparkly belt. Obsessed with your décolletage… wear a sparkly necklace or brooch. If you’re a super confident woman, go with an all-over sequined dress.
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I did!… Photo by Frank O’Donnell
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